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Friends give you strength and help you stand firm, facing all the adversities of life. But when these friends ditch you for no apparent reason, you lose the support that held you firm and fall down hard on the floor.
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While some friendships become stronger with time, there are some that wane and dissolve out of our lives forever. Sometimes the splinters from a relationship dig deeply into your soul, mainly because that particular friend was extremely dear to you and you lost him/her for no apparent reason and they are not letting on what caused the break despite your asking them a zillion times. This causes a lot of agony, but time heals these wounds and you move on armed with distrust when befriending the next person.......whether we want them or not. But there should be some kind of explanation given for this so that everyone involved is aware what has happened. That is the least we owe to our friends, or ex-friends for that matter. But sometimes a friend just backs off and drops all connections with you for no apparent reason; they will not talk to you, not take your calls, not meet mutual friends and will not give you closure. You can't think of anything that could have caused your friend to put an end to your friendship, and it is particularly frustrating when they won't even tell you what happened.
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Sonia and Maryam had been friends since they were in college and even after they married they managed a relationship in which their husbands were also included, so their friendship continued. Then suddenly, Sonia sent Maryam an SMS and declared that their friendship was over, and that they must never meet again. Maryam demanded an explanation for the sudden cessation of their 20-year-old friendship, but Sonia didn't give any. Maryam was devastated, she could not believe that such a long friendship could be wrapped up so abruptly without giving her a chance to assimilate the situation. She tried to convey her hurt to Sonia, but she came up against it as a stonewall. It was apparent that Sonia didn't want nor cared to continue any kind of communication with Maryam. This episode has shaken Maryam's belief in friendship since she is the type of person who has always cherished her friends; it has made her wary to make new friends now, as she is always expecting to be dumped whenever it pleases the other person.
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If one has invested a considerable time in a friendship, and one day decides to break ties with one's friends, it is only fair that the one being dumped should be given the respect and consideration of being informed why the relationship is ending.
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So, next time you decide that you cannot continue a relationship and can't reconcile, at least give your friend the dignity of closure for old (and good) times' sake.
-Unknown-
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While some friendships become stronger with time, there are some that wane and dissolve out of our lives forever. Sometimes the splinters from a relationship dig deeply into your soul, mainly because that particular friend was extremely dear to you and you lost him/her for no apparent reason and they are not letting on what caused the break despite your asking them a zillion times. This causes a lot of agony, but time heals these wounds and you move on armed with distrust when befriending the next person.......whether we want them or not. But there should be some kind of explanation given for this so that everyone involved is aware what has happened. That is the least we owe to our friends, or ex-friends for that matter. But sometimes a friend just backs off and drops all connections with you for no apparent reason; they will not talk to you, not take your calls, not meet mutual friends and will not give you closure. You can't think of anything that could have caused your friend to put an end to your friendship, and it is particularly frustrating when they won't even tell you what happened.
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Sonia and Maryam had been friends since they were in college and even after they married they managed a relationship in which their husbands were also included, so their friendship continued. Then suddenly, Sonia sent Maryam an SMS and declared that their friendship was over, and that they must never meet again. Maryam demanded an explanation for the sudden cessation of their 20-year-old friendship, but Sonia didn't give any. Maryam was devastated, she could not believe that such a long friendship could be wrapped up so abruptly without giving her a chance to assimilate the situation. She tried to convey her hurt to Sonia, but she came up against it as a stonewall. It was apparent that Sonia didn't want nor cared to continue any kind of communication with Maryam. This episode has shaken Maryam's belief in friendship since she is the type of person who has always cherished her friends; it has made her wary to make new friends now, as she is always expecting to be dumped whenever it pleases the other person.
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If one has invested a considerable time in a friendship, and one day decides to break ties with one's friends, it is only fair that the one being dumped should be given the respect and consideration of being informed why the relationship is ending.
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So, next time you decide that you cannot continue a relationship and can't reconcile, at least give your friend the dignity of closure for old (and good) times' sake.
-Unknown-
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