Saturday, April 26, 2008
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Pain and Courage
"So what if you think that the world is cruel and is filled with hatred? The world never thinks about you in this manner! Do u know the reason? because your sorrow and your pain isn't worth depressing the entire world. Pain does not matter. But the Courage to stand, does!"
(Book of Reality, 201)
(Book of Reality, 201)
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Let me preface this post by saying, I do have a facebook account and I use it.
Facebook has become a craze in the last few years, in fact it was launched in February of 2004 a mere 4 years ago. By september of 2007, facebook had over 64 million subscribers and about 14 million uploads DAILY!
It is easy to be a "friend" in facebook, you only have to ask someone to be your friend and 99% of the time, they will say, "YES."
The amazing fact that I have people on my "friend's list" that I have NEVER EVER EVER spoken to. In fact, I was asked to be friends with people at the School that I attend that I normally would not recognized.
Another "important" aspect of facebook are applications. One can get the "daily verse," or "the farside of the day," or "fun fact." However the most revolting part of this application comes by way of SUPERPOKE. Superpoke, which I could never sign up for, is an application that allows you to, "dance with," "throw a sheep at," "hug," "eat thanksgiving with," etc. This application allows you to do things with people that you would never do in real life.
Facebook is a great technological advance, it allows people to keep in touch with others, and helps you find people that you have not seen. YET I have to ask, if you have lost touch with someone, why do you need to find them again?
If you are not friends with someone, why are you looking to be "friends" with them over facebook?
If you are not going to throw a live sheep; why must you do this on facebook?
Facebook is Friendship with no strings attached!
Infact.....Now a days any kind of Freindship is with no strings attached..!!
Facebook has become a craze in the last few years, in fact it was launched in February of 2004 a mere 4 years ago. By september of 2007, facebook had over 64 million subscribers and about 14 million uploads DAILY!
It is easy to be a "friend" in facebook, you only have to ask someone to be your friend and 99% of the time, they will say, "YES."
The amazing fact that I have people on my "friend's list" that I have NEVER EVER EVER spoken to. In fact, I was asked to be friends with people at the School that I attend that I normally would not recognized.
Another "important" aspect of facebook are applications. One can get the "daily verse," or "the farside of the day," or "fun fact." However the most revolting part of this application comes by way of SUPERPOKE. Superpoke, which I could never sign up for, is an application that allows you to, "dance with," "throw a sheep at," "hug," "eat thanksgiving with," etc. This application allows you to do things with people that you would never do in real life.
Facebook is a great technological advance, it allows people to keep in touch with others, and helps you find people that you have not seen. YET I have to ask, if you have lost touch with someone, why do you need to find them again?
If you are not friends with someone, why are you looking to be "friends" with them over facebook?
If you are not going to throw a live sheep; why must you do this on facebook?
Facebook is Friendship with no strings attached!
Infact.....Now a days any kind of Freindship is with no strings attached..!!
Courtesy:Unknown
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
When Is a Friendship Over?
I was talking with a girlfriend and she mentioned that one of her oldest friends had seemed to be drifting away from her for some time.
"Then two weeks ago we stopped talking altogether," she said with a shrug, "and so I suppose it's over."
Far from an authority on how to end acquaintances, I rather stink at it. Not counting the plethora of doomed alliances in high school and college, I simply don't let most people go nowadays. I meet wonderful folks wherever the wind takes me and hold on for life.
There are only a few exceptions to that rule. Recently I discovered that a good friend had made some seriously bad decisions and, although I won't reach out to tell him not to ever talk to me again, I seriously hope he does not. His lapses in judgment were that bad.
But more often than not, I keep in touch with the planet. And it seems to me that two weeks of silence is not reason enough to end a friendship.
Case in point - an old friend from Boston stopped emailing me back about a year and a half ago. No explanation, really, I just stopped hearing from him. Once quite close, after moving back to Tampa we'd email one another every other month or so. Therefore it was concerning, but not jarring, to lose touch completely. I would still email him - nothing confrontational, just pictures or the occasional joke - every once in a while. Because I can't help myself.
Few weeks ago, I finally got a response back. Seems his wife had been battling quite a serious illness. This old friend wrote me a lengthy email, explaining all his family had been through this past year, and how he looks forward to seeing me and my brood this summer.
I'm glad I never stopped reaching out.
Don't get me wrong - if I were under the impression that a previously close friend was backing off, I'd let him or her go. I'd stop the phone calls and emails altogether. Like my old friend Sharon used to say,
"Drop the reigns and let the horse keep on trottin'."
I don't chase anyone.
But instead of changing my number and moving on, I like remaining open and available. Feels better than ending a relationship.
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I respect the views of the author But
I have a question...that
"Why do they need to Turn towards you again ,if they have Lost Touch with you Once? "
"Then two weeks ago we stopped talking altogether," she said with a shrug, "and so I suppose it's over."
Far from an authority on how to end acquaintances, I rather stink at it. Not counting the plethora of doomed alliances in high school and college, I simply don't let most people go nowadays. I meet wonderful folks wherever the wind takes me and hold on for life.
There are only a few exceptions to that rule. Recently I discovered that a good friend had made some seriously bad decisions and, although I won't reach out to tell him not to ever talk to me again, I seriously hope he does not. His lapses in judgment were that bad.
But more often than not, I keep in touch with the planet. And it seems to me that two weeks of silence is not reason enough to end a friendship.
Case in point - an old friend from Boston stopped emailing me back about a year and a half ago. No explanation, really, I just stopped hearing from him. Once quite close, after moving back to Tampa we'd email one another every other month or so. Therefore it was concerning, but not jarring, to lose touch completely. I would still email him - nothing confrontational, just pictures or the occasional joke - every once in a while. Because I can't help myself.
Few weeks ago, I finally got a response back. Seems his wife had been battling quite a serious illness. This old friend wrote me a lengthy email, explaining all his family had been through this past year, and how he looks forward to seeing me and my brood this summer.
I'm glad I never stopped reaching out.
Don't get me wrong - if I were under the impression that a previously close friend was backing off, I'd let him or her go. I'd stop the phone calls and emails altogether. Like my old friend Sharon used to say,
"Drop the reigns and let the horse keep on trottin'."
I don't chase anyone.
But instead of changing my number and moving on, I like remaining open and available. Feels better than ending a relationship.
---------------------------------
I respect the views of the author But
I have a question...that
"Why do they need to Turn towards you again ,if they have Lost Touch with you Once? "
Saturday, April 12, 2008
Monday, April 7, 2008
I luv u
I wonder if we really know when we fall in love. How can the writer or the character be so sure of the exact time and date when he/she fell in love? Is it so easy to describe the most complex feeling one has in just two short words? You can't just get up one day and decide that you are in love or you are going to be in love. It just doesn’t work that way.
This is the biggest dilemma of the young adults of our age. We so badly want to associate with someone that we usually force ourselves to either fall in love with someone or to deceive ourselves in believing that we are in love with a particular person.
Falling in love or being in love is one’s life’s most important decision and experience. Usually life revolves around it—we revolve around that person. Why are we so hasty in making the most important decision of our lives? Why the first person who shows some care is the person we decide to spend our lives with? I do understand that it is hard to resist the care and kindness but we need to keep in mind that the consideration one is offering you might not be for forever. We need to understand that probably the other person is not as emotionally involved as we are.
A good relationship is the one in which both partners/spouses bring the best out of each other. A good relation is the one in which you not only have fun but you know (notice it's not “you think”, it's "you Know") you can count on one another for support. A relation where you can be a complete and total mess but the other is still willing to accept you and love you.
Do you see yourself pretending in front of your partner? Do you feel pressurized into doing something that you don’t really feel like doing? It can be something as simple as watching a particular type of movie or staying up late at night. Do you, at times feel that you are overly criticized or overly praised? Do you question their or your own credibility? Do you feel afraid that they will probably cheat on you if they had a chance? Do you think you can't be yourself in front of your partner most of the times? Have you faced certain times when you were not able to count on them or you didn’t feel comfortable doing so? If you answered YES to even one of these questions then let me tell you that there is something seriously WRONG with the relationship you are in.
Half of the time we know exactly how the other feels about us but we deceive ourselves into believing that everything is going well. Half the couples that I see breaking up, they will confess at one point or another that they knew for a long time that things were not going well.
Why are you so afraid? Is that person the only person who will ever love you? Are you afraid that you will never find love again? Is your self esteem so low that you are willing to put up with someone who really doesn’t care about you? The person who has left you when you needed them the most or worse yet, left you for whatever reason and you are still crying over it? Why are you so pathetic? I am not willing to cry over people who have treated me badly and neither am I going to stick around in a relationship which doesn’t give both of us happiness. The ultimate goal of life is Happiness. We are with a person because he makes us happy and because we make them happy; if you are not happy there is no point. It's better to live alone and free than put up with an idiot for the rest of your life.
This is the biggest dilemma of the young adults of our age. We so badly want to associate with someone that we usually force ourselves to either fall in love with someone or to deceive ourselves in believing that we are in love with a particular person.
Falling in love or being in love is one’s life’s most important decision and experience. Usually life revolves around it—we revolve around that person. Why are we so hasty in making the most important decision of our lives? Why the first person who shows some care is the person we decide to spend our lives with? I do understand that it is hard to resist the care and kindness but we need to keep in mind that the consideration one is offering you might not be for forever. We need to understand that probably the other person is not as emotionally involved as we are.
A good relationship is the one in which both partners/spouses bring the best out of each other. A good relation is the one in which you not only have fun but you know (notice it's not “you think”, it's "you Know") you can count on one another for support. A relation where you can be a complete and total mess but the other is still willing to accept you and love you.
Do you see yourself pretending in front of your partner? Do you feel pressurized into doing something that you don’t really feel like doing? It can be something as simple as watching a particular type of movie or staying up late at night. Do you, at times feel that you are overly criticized or overly praised? Do you question their or your own credibility? Do you feel afraid that they will probably cheat on you if they had a chance? Do you think you can't be yourself in front of your partner most of the times? Have you faced certain times when you were not able to count on them or you didn’t feel comfortable doing so? If you answered YES to even one of these questions then let me tell you that there is something seriously WRONG with the relationship you are in.
Half of the time we know exactly how the other feels about us but we deceive ourselves into believing that everything is going well. Half the couples that I see breaking up, they will confess at one point or another that they knew for a long time that things were not going well.
Why are you so afraid? Is that person the only person who will ever love you? Are you afraid that you will never find love again? Is your self esteem so low that you are willing to put up with someone who really doesn’t care about you? The person who has left you when you needed them the most or worse yet, left you for whatever reason and you are still crying over it? Why are you so pathetic? I am not willing to cry over people who have treated me badly and neither am I going to stick around in a relationship which doesn’t give both of us happiness. The ultimate goal of life is Happiness. We are with a person because he makes us happy and because we make them happy; if you are not happy there is no point. It's better to live alone and free than put up with an idiot for the rest of your life.
…And love, I've come to understand, is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day. It is not a NEED. It is not a WANT. It should never be those things. I am sure we all are better than that.
Saturday, April 5, 2008
Thursday, April 3, 2008
Hosla
..
Manzil mushkil to kya..
Dhundhla saahil to kya..
Tanha ye dil to kya...
Ye Hosla kyun jhuke
Ye Arzoo kyun ruke!!!
Manzil mushkil to kya..
Dhundhla saahil to kya..
Tanha ye dil to kya...
Ye Hosla kyun jhuke
Ye Arzoo kyun ruke!!!
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
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